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How to choose the right sex toy for women – 11 tips for buying the best bedroom accessories for you
It can be hard to know how to choose the right sex toy when you're a woman — there's just so much variety these days!
From vibrators to dedicated clitoral stimulators, there's apparently a toy for everything.
For women, it can be hard to know how to choose the right sex toy (Credit: Alamy)
How to choose the right sex toy for women
So, if you've decided to take the plunge and invest, but are feeling a little overwhelmed, you're in the right place.
Here, we break down how to choose the right sex toy for your personal needs.
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1. Know the difference
First, narrow down what kind of toy you want. To start with the basics, you have dildos, which offer the sensation of vaginal penetration, while vibrators, on the other hand, can be used on the clitoris or the nipples.
Alternatively, there are clitoral suction toys, which give a stronger, targeted stimulation. Then, there are rabbit vibrators that offer the best of both worlds, with simultaneous clitoral and vaginal action.
Narrow down what type of toy you're going to go for (Credit: Alamy)
2. Size matters
Novices and toy fanatics will have very different ideas as to what the perfect sized sex toy is. You may want to start off with something smaller if you're a first-timer, and build up to a larger toy after some time has passed.
You may also want to bear in mind discretion. A bullet vibrator will be much easier to keep hidden away, than, say, a 12-inch dildo.
Decide what kind of size you want (Credit: Alamy)
3. Look at the features
Everyone's different, and you may want something specific from your sex toy. For example, do you want something with lots of different settings, or are you happy to stick to just one? And do you need something that pretty much silent — or do you live alone?
There's also the question of whether you may need a waterproof toy. If you only ever use them in your bedroom, there's no point forking out more cash for that feature if you doubt you'll ever use it.
Different toys have different features (Credit: Alamy)
4. Bear in mind your budget
There is a range of sex toys on the market, and they all come at different prices. One vibrator may set you back a couple of quid, while another may break the bank. If you're trying something out for the first time, it may be wise to opt for a more affordable option, and then price up if you want to invest.
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Alternatively, you may know that your body loves a certain type of toy. In which case, splashing some more cash could lead to some more advanced features... and a stronger orgasm.
Some toys will set you back a pretty penny (Credit: Alamy)
5. Consider texture
The texture of your sex toy can increase or decrease pleasure.
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If you want extra stimulation, go for a toy that is ribbed or bumpy. You can also have fun with temperature by using a toy that's made of a cool metal for added goosebumps.
If you want extra stimulation, go for a toy that is ribbed or bumpy (Credit: Alamy)
6. And material...
Some materials are more popular than others. Here's a round-up of the most common materials you'll find in female sex toys...
Silicone: Normally, velvety soft and super durable. But ensure to only used water-based lube with this kind of toy, (more on that later...)
Glass: Sex toys made out of glass are strong and resistant, and good if you want to explore temperature play.
ABS Plastic: This material is often found in bullet vibrators, and in your toy's handle.
TPE/TPR: These kind of rubbers are safe for skin, and are often used to mimic the appearance of a real body.
Jelly: This material is found in cheaper toys, and can cause irritation if you're sensitive to latex.
Some materials are more popular than others (Credit: Alamy)
7. Noise
If you live with multiple flatmates, you may want something that's on the quieter side.
Some vibrators have a pretty powerful buzz, which can make it difficult for you to use them whenever you fancy. So, pay attention to the product description, and look for any indications that it may have sound dampening properties.
Consider if you want a quieter toy (Credit: Alamy)
8. Lube warning
Some lubricants are known to break down the materials in sex toys.
Silicone-based lubes should never be used with silicone-based sex toys, as they can break down the rubber over time. But feel free to use them with toys made from other materials, such as plastic, glass and steel.
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Likewise, oil-based lubes should not be used with latex sex toys as they can dissolve the latex and cause them to wear down over time.
As a general rule of thumb, if you prefer to use lube with your toys, stick to the water-based variety.
Some lubricants are known to break down the materials in sex toys (Credit: Unsplash)
9. Aesthetics
If you're not a fan of garish, hot pink sex toys, then don't buy them!
Ultimately, us humans are visual creatures, and we're much more likely to use something if it appeals to our tastes and style. As there are so many different toys on the market, you can easily find something muted if that's more your vibe.
Choice for something that you like looking at (Credit: Unsplash)
10. Consider if it's multifunctional
Some sex toys may be better equipped to be used during sex, as well as for masturbation.
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If you'd like to incorporate sex toy play with your partner, bear that in mind before you purchase. A larger sex toy may be easier to use in the bedroom, than, for example, a bullet vibrator, which is more suited for solo masturbation.
Bear in mind if you'd like to use your toy solo, or with a partner (Credit: Alamy)
11. Is it waterproof?
Not all toys are made the same. Before you purchase, think about whether you'd like to use it in different settings, such as in the shower or bath.
While many sex toys are waterproof these days, there are still some that are not. As ever, ensure to read the packaging!
